WHO IS JULE KIM?
Jule Kim is a Seattle life coach and human relationship expert. She’s tried a lot of different things, and even calls herself a corporate escapee, law school dropout, and serial entrepreneur. Jule has most recently transitioned from a successful photography career and now spends her time coaching creative entrepreneurs, corporate executives, and people looking to find a fulfilling relationship partner.
In her own words:
“I’ve probably tried more careers than most people out there. I’ve always been an all or nothing kind of person, so each time I really threw myself into things. While that was good, what I’ve come to realize is that I lacked purpose. I didn’t even know that I should have been asking what I wanted my life to look like, or who I wanted to be. The only measure of success I knew to look at was money, so that’s how I ended up setting my sights on law school and then a corporate career.
I’ve worked at companies like Microsoft and Amazon, and yes, they came with a lot of money. For a time, I felt successful because I was making more money than I’d ever made in my life, and I was able to buy all these pretty new things. But what I eventually learned the hard way was that buying new things makes you excited and all, but that’s pretty short-lived. If you feel like something is missing from your life, retail therapy isn’t going to cut it.
My last 4 years have been spent running a successful photography business, and also a coaching business. I’ve recently chosen to shut photography down because it was honestly a little insane managing two businesses at once, and I also realized that coaching means so much more to me.
I love connecting with people, hearing their stories, helping them figure out what’s stopping them from doing what they want to be doing, getting them to see how amazing they really are, where their strengths and weaknesses lie, all of it. The human condition is messy and yet so wonderfully natural, and I love every part of it. I’ve always been the person who sees past the bullshit, and gets people to make stuff happen.”
- Start now. Fix it later. Just make sure you start.⠀
- Hi, I’m Jule, and I’m a recovering perfectionist.
- The key to making New Year’s resolutions that stick is waking up each day and deciding what kind of person you want to be.
- There’s no such thing as “should,” so stop “shoulding” all over yourself.
- The life you want is waiting for you.
- When you’re trying to create a new habit, it’s less about the doing and more about who you have to become.
WHAT WAS JULE’S TAKE AWAY FROM 2020?
Before COVID, Jule was a photographer and loved her clients and growing her business. She admits she was making good money, until of course, the pandemic happened. When the governor of Washington shut down the state and all non essential businesses were to be closed immediately, Jule had no idea what to do! She had worked so hard to build her photography business and now it was being shut down. Though she had worked hard building her photography business, she had lots of time to sit down and really think about what she wanted to do, and it turned out that photography just wasn’t it! So, if COVID had not happened, Jule says she probably wouldn’t have ever found coaching.
WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO START OFF THE NEW YEAR?
Jule highly recommends reading Atomic Habits and thinks it is a great way to start 2021. She cannot recommend it enough, especially if you’re trying to turn over a new leaf. It addresses the concept of habits from the inside-out approach, i.e., who you have to become versus what to do or what goals to set. Pick up a copy of this book if you want actionable tips on how to truly alter your routine and make resolutions stick.
Also, if you’re in a rut because of 2020, Jule has some amazing advice as a coach! She says that how you talk about anything will influence how you see everything. Though 2020 was rough and we were all ready for a new year, 2021 doesn’t mean things will get better overnight. 2021 won’t magically save you from 2020! It all depends on where you focus your thoughts and how positive or negative you are. Stop focusing on all the negative things and start looking at the positive things. Jule does admit that it’s tough to do! Take a piece of paper and physically start making a list of the GOOD things that happened to you in 2020. This will help start to shift your mindset.
IF SOMEONE IS STUCK IN A RUT IN THEIR BUSINESS OR THEIR LIFE, WHERE DOES COACHING COME IN? WHAT EXACTLY IS A LIFE COACH?
Jule says you can compare coaching to a friend. However, not just a normal friend, but the one friend who won’t let you get away with the “I can’t do this today” and the “maybe I’ll start this another time.” The friend who tells you that you can do it and you WILL do it! The friend that keeps you 100% accountable and doesn’t let opportunities get away. Coaching really helps to shift a perspective and really encourages you to think about business or life in different ways. Jule says coaching is how you basically become the 2.0 or 3.0 version of yourself faster. A coach is someone who will help you close the gaps and get you to the future goals faster!
WHAT ARE TECHNIQUES WE CAN USE TO SHIFT OUR MINDSET TO MORE POSITIVE THINKING?
Jule sees a few techniques with her clients that have seemed to work really well as far as shifting the mind in a more positive direction.
First, savoring the positive wins when you have them! No matter how big or small the victories are, celebrate them because they are all a big deal! Take it for what it is at base value and set aside some intention to celebrate with yourself and people who appreciate you and know you!
Also, reframing. You have probably already experienced the idea of reframing when you were young…. the first encounter you had with this idea was probably “is your glass half empty or half full?” You can choose to only see the bad things about something or you can choose to really focus on spinning it into something neutral or positive! Any way to get away from the negative path is best.
WHAT IS JULE’S TAKE ON NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS?
Jule has a love-hate relationship with resolutions and says she personally doesn’t even make them anymore because she never keeps them. What Jule has found after researching the psychology behind resolutions is that people are very unrealistic with their goals which is why new year’s resolutions usually don’t last. For instance, Jule says she hasn’t worked out in 15 years yet set an unrealistic resolution (goal) to work out 3 times a week starting in January. However, this is not realistic so instead, when you want to make a change, do it from the inside out. Keep goals realistic and think about your future self and who you want to be.
WHAT IS A HABIT?
Jule says that nothing deserves the title of a habit unless it’s been done consistently every single day or every single week for 4 weeks straight. 4 weeks is the minimum amount of time it takes for anything to actually start setting in and really becoming a habit.
WHERE CAN YOU FIND JULE?